- You have no idea what being a parent is really like, until you're a parent
- You have no idea what being a homeowner really is like, until you're a homeowner
- You have no idea what being a business owner is really like, until you're a business owner
- You have no idea what being unemployed feels like, unless you've been unemployed
The flip side is, there is NO one answer. Every relationship is different, and every couple has their own issues. Some people do walk into marriage thinking that somehow, a pretty dress and beautiful floral arrangements will automatically fix everything. And sure, some people do get married for the wrong reasons. I like to believe these instances are the minority. I'd like to believe that people get married because they believe with all of their being that they have found the person that they plan to spend the rest of their life with. And then life happens.
Marriage may not ever be viewed the same way it was in 1950 again, but that doesn't mean that it has lost its usefulness. With all things in life, we adapt. The same social trends that have allowed us to believe that fathers are not necessary (that's a post in itself) lead us to think that marriage has no benefit, no point, no purpose. As a married woman, I can say that's not the case, but you don't KNOW that until you've LIVED that.
The other thing is, it seems as though single women feel attacked by their married counterparts. And I don't know why - or understand the why. I can honestly say, my married friends and I don't sit around talking about single women all day, and I certainly don't put down any of my single friends. Is it just that I travel in different social circles (aka I have like 5 friends and that's enough) or is it something else?
Sometimes, I believe we create our own divides where they don't have to be. Single women and married women don't have to be at war. Your marital status makes absolutely no difference to me, at the end of the day it won't change how I live my life. Your relationship status is your business and your business alone. I won't judge your choices*, and you shouldn't judge mine.
*This does not include if you wear leggings as pants. If you do this, you can rest assured that you look like a hooker and I think you're a trollop. Leggings are not pants people!